In a new world of equality, in a new www of equality, I found feminists!!!!!!!
Man! These e-Feminists take eve-teasing to a new level.
I stumbled upon a site dedicated to anti-eve-teasing.
Is eve-teasing really so serious ? I think it should be taken sportively and women should know how to handle it.I have never eve-teased, but if a girl is really good looking 100% of the guys cant help staring and sometimes, even , making a remark. It is pretty natural (even the girls know it) , right ?
This is the URL BLANK NOISE PROJECT for the anti-eve teasing squad.
I wrote a comment for them. I am an anti-feminist and I believe in equality.
My comment was written in the spur of a moment.It ran something like this :-
Hmm.I stumbled upon this website by chance.
All I can say is , I differ on many view points here.
This is a classic case of sensationalizing a whole issue as common as "eve teasing". It is ubiquitous and it is going to be there as long as humans exist.
"Eve teasing" and looking is more of a biological behaviour rather than a societal one.
Picture this:-
If ANY OF YOU "harassed girls" were a GUY ,you wouldnt start such a project, because you would be one of the guys teasing a girl. It is natural.
The very nature of eve-teasing is analogous to a like a "clap" which requires two hands. If you contribute and act as a superior species, you tend to get teased more.
By promoting such ideas, by saying powerful words like "trauma" and upsetting the "mental health of women", you are just taking a small thing to ridiculous proportions....
But I am sure there are many guys around there, who have different views.
Whatever! Women are pampered.Thats all I can say.
7 comments:
heheh....
quote alla moms...sumne heLiddu ashte :-)
Not sure about this dude. Eve-teasing isn't just some normal thing.
I remember a discussion I had with a friend...and why the whole "even the girls are to be blamed" argument is wrong. Simply put - a girl is not an object. And cannot be treated as one.
Neither am I sure about what Blank Noise has achieved, but I think their intentions were honourable.
And you are right about the equality. Just that, it should be looked at like this - if the same harassment were to happen to a guy, he should have equal right to claim damages.
Now whether a guy gets traumatised or not is immaterial. And not really pertinent to how it affects a girl.
Btw...how come no mention yet about your modelling offer? :P
Modelling heheh...that was a joke man :-) nOhting happened :-)
Regarding your comment,I understand that eve-teasing (in a broader context of harassment) is not normal.
But staring somebody is something which just happens (sometimes, the starer is totally unaware too...)You cannot make it an offense...Handing pamplets to poor guys who just wonder what a girl is doing on the road with a T-shirt showing an arrow pointing upwards (as shown on their blog)...Photographing some guys who just caught a glimpse of some crazy dames standing on the road carrying out a weird sting operation.
Ofcourse Girls are not objects...Some of them think that guys perceive them as objects...If they can't carry-off a dress or attire and get conscious of it, they immediately get insecure and blame that men consider them as objects....
I do understand the intentions of blank noise are honorable,but I feel they are villainizing the XY chromosome..Thats why there was an instant reaction from my side.
Cant agree with you here Sudeepaa...I would say its more of a societal practice than biological...which makes it all the more necessary to stamp it out. At the end of the day, you can convey a lot (wanted and unwanted) in just a stare.
You've deleted my most honorable comment. Irli.
On the post itself, You might have seen Upendra the movie. Apart from its allegorical angle, there is a scene where he endorses your kind of viewpoint about women who wear provocative clothes and scream harassment if someone just takes a look.
As we discussed in the car, it's more of a case of overall society acceptance of attitudes of women, etc. What works in Paris need not work in Panipat. Is that bad? I am not sure.
Didn't wanna comment, but when the second post came up, thought I would write what I thought...
Well, when you think of staring in the context of eve-teasing, you think of when would _you_ look at a girl? Only if she is hot, and wearing "interesting" clothes. And well, that doesn't seem too bad now, does it? It isn't. Sometimes, girls do dress up, to be "looked at", and its only flattering. And thats not what the staring of eve-teasing is all about.
The staring is what a girl goes through in her 9th standard. While going to school, in school uniform. When she has just started developing breasts. When men on the road, in the train, in the bus stare. Suggestively. Up and down. Thats followed by comments sometimes, sometimes by whistles, and sometimes its just staring. Not looking with appreciate eyes, staring with an aim to make uncomfortable.
The girl is not "looking hot". She is not "asking for it". But its embarrasing. She doesn't know what to do. How to react. And this usually happens "in your colony". Somewhere you go everyday. On the road to your school/college. In the shop you go almost everyday for groceries. At a time, when you are still playing hide and seek in a group of guys and girls outside the school building.
This is not looking at hot women. This is asserting power by making a woman on the road uncomfortable. No woman really complains of being looked at when she is dressed up. The complaint is about being stared at. With that lewd look in the eye, which gives her nightmares later. Which makes her feel unsafe in a crowd. Which makes her wonder, "if he is looking like that, what will he do next? Maybe I shouldn't walk in this area at all. Is it my fault? Am I being sluttish? Am I walking with my breasts pushed out? Should I start slouching so I am not obvious? Should I stop wearing jeans and start wearing salwar kameezes? Am I a bad girl that they are looking at me with that kind of look? Am I giving some signal, am I encouraging them? "
Eve-teasing happens only to women who would feel intimidated by it. Young girls in school or college, who have no clue about why this is happening. Or when it is dark, and some woman is walking quickly to reach home safe. When in the bus where guys look her up and down, while standing next to her for the next 30 minutes, "accidentally" swaying whenever the bus brakes at a stop.
To conclude, I don't agree with the blank noise project. For women who are used to looking down so much, looking up and facing the crowd might feel empowering, but as pointed out, it is at the cost of making normal guys who are "just looking" feel bad. Feel like they shouldn't be looking, like women are being unfair, dressing up and then complaining.
Look all you want Sudeep. :) Appreciating glances are quite different from "lustful stares" made to only make someone feel uncomfortable.
Bridget Jones:
That was a very good and valid comment....I agree with almost all the points..I didnt have such a clear idea abt the mind of girls when i wrote this.
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